Friday, October 18, 2019

Long time

I thought I hadn't posted for a few months. No. More like ten months. Geez. I'm still dating the new guy. Poor dude doesn't even have a blog name! I want to say "Jimmy" because our real names have some similarity, though not quite that much. He's really not a Jimmy but we can go with that for now.

I love having a boyfriend. I admit it! The public facing aspect is fantastic. I know it shouldn't matter. I've been pretty much at ease with traveling through my social world solo for approximately the last decade. I was often frustrated. I wanted more, but I made the most of my freedom and did what I wanted with my time. Now I have a boyfriend and it's good! We are a good team. He is at my place more often than I'm at his and he cleans up and helps me out without fussing and often without even being asked. I do more fussing at him than I would like but the roughest spots we have are mostly smoothed out. I am mostly happy and things are mostly good. He is as sweet, kind and generous as always. I think the thing that gets us in the most trouble is that he never says what he wants--it's always about what makes me happy. Why, you might ask, is that a problem? Well, it means that he never makes a decision or voices a strong preference--what movie to see, where to have dinner, what to watch on TV, when to go to bed even!--so it's always on me to decide the little things and it gets overwhelming. I want to honor his desires--but he's so used to self-abnegation  that half the time he doesn't even know what they are--or claims not to have any. Seems like a weird thing to argue about, but there you go. Also he still sometimes trips into mansplaining, but we don't fight about it anymore. And so much apologizing about nothing--my strategy is to either say "you're welcome" when he apologizes unnecessarily or ignore it. This has led to him saying "you're welcome" to me when I apologize! I am trying to come up with a different more nonsensical response so we can go back to using "you're welcome" for its original purpose.

I have met his ex-wife--she is a cool, interesting person. I have met some of his relatives in upstate New York. Everyone loves him and it was great to see them show him so much affection. Jimmy is a good person and I am lucky to have him in my life.

Work continues. Mostly fine, sometimes frustrating. I think if we had universal health care, I might quit! But it's good to have something to do and sometimes it's even interesting.

I am biking a fair amount. Yoga seems to go in phases. I'm in a non-yoga phase now since I used up my last pass and I'm about to go on a 10-day trip. I may start up again when I return. Of course, I could do a home practice...and I should.

Life is pretty even now. The world is mad but I'm not!

Grateful for: things being pretty good.

1 comment:

  1. Glad you're happy. Treat him like he treats you. If he works hard and then works hard for you accept what he can get done you have no idea how difficult it xam be when you give your all and push yourself beyond your limits to make someone happy and they dont fully appreciate it.


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