Tuesday, January 27, 2009


Confidential to the person who found the blog via this search string:

“He likes me but won't date me because he doesn't know what he wants. Should i stop contacting him [?]”

Short answer: Yes.

Long answer: I’ve been there. I’ve had that gut feeling that the guy liked me, but through his actions, words, a combination, he wasn’t quite there. He wasn’t calling me, he wasn’t happy when I called him, he was distant, unenthusiastic, etc. But I was sure. I knew. You know what I think? It doesn’t matter. Maybe he really likes you. So what? He won’t date you. That’s what matters. Feel better knowing that you’re not crazy. If you think someone likes you, they probably do. But if they won’t act on it, it doesn’t matter. Perhaps it’s a little more painful...perhaps we need to believe that the object of our affection finds us attractive and there is some mysterious reason why you can’t be together and if only this obstacle were overcome, you could live blissfully happily ever after.

All I can say is, don’t give up your day job. Move forward, don't wait. If he comes around, you can decide what to do then. If he doesn't, you won't care because all this time you've been busy living your life.

As always, I am merely attempting to take my own advice.

Grateful for: good advice.

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