In the hope of cheering myself up, I won't write (more) about work. Instead, I'll respond to a question a regular reader and frequent commentator sent me. If anyone else would like to ask a dating-related question, I'm happy to answer it. If you send me something, let me know if you want it answered "online" and I'll publish it. (My email address is available in my blogger profile.)
So, without further ado, here is the first (and possibly only) installment of "Dear Jamy."
What's your opinion on second dates? I think that the fella should do chatting up stuff. Then ask and ask and ask for the first date. So when you have the first date and it goes well, how does the second date get organised? In my opinion the girl should sort of be asking! So what if she keeps texting "when am I going to see you again" what should a person (me) :) do! Maybe you could do a blog on it? Please???
My opinion on second dates is that they are a good idea. Heh.
There are no rules about who should ask for the second date, but here are some illustrative scenarios:
A. If the woman asked for the first date:
- I would wait for him to ask me out on the second date. However, if something we'd talked about came up in the meantime--like a movie or concert that we both wanted to see--and I were going with a friend, then I might invite him along.
- I would wait for him to ask me, butif I got too impatient, I might call him and hint around about a second date, but I wouldn't ask directly.
- If I liked him, I would ask him out on the second date.
- If I wasn't sure I liked him and he asked me for a second date, I would say yes in the interest of "giving him a chance."
- If I thought that boys were supposed to do the asking, I might hint around and make it clear that I would say yes to a second date.
- If I were shy and afraid of rejection, I might hint around and make it clear that I would say yes to a second date.
Good luck and let us know what happens!
Grateful for: distractions.