[snip—about demise of drug dealer next door] I still see trash accumulating in the back parking lot. Anyone have time to keep it clean back there? I feel like I'm doing it all on my own. You all don't respond to my messages. Please, does someone have a suggestion about how to take care of our property??? It's also been almost two years that I have been treasurer. I'm ready for someone else to take this job on. Volunteers? I've automated all of the regular bills, so the main task is to get the checks deposited every month. It would also help a great deal if you have a home computer.Now, I’m not stupid. I expected that I would get an angry response from hun. But I wanted some kind of interaction with them. It will be summer soon and that’s when most of the work needs to be done. I want to settle this issue now. Hun responds:
completely offensive! thanks for the laugh.I respond:
Why [hun], you are more than welcome. I have asked politely for help cleaning and taking care of the yard. I have asked politely for suggestions as to how we four can take care of the property. I am frustrated. Perhaps you all haven't noticed the trash accumulating in the back? Is it offensive that I want help? Is it offensive that I want to resign as treasurer? Can we come to some kind of understanding? Some way to work together? That is all I want.Hun:
It is offensive that you announce everything you do - as seldom as you do it, yeah it's offensive. Have I noticed the garbage - hell yeah I have. I have spent 2 years picking it up. NOTE: You have picked it up once? maybe twice? Do I send emails announcing my "efforts" to the world - no. It's a part of condo life. Resign. Sweep the freaking Streets for all I care, but leave me off these emails where you pat yourself on the back in an effort to make everyone else feel bad. Doesn't work and it is a waste of cyberspace.Jamy:
Wow, you are pretty angry [hun]. Do you have suggestions about how to run things? I just see you "yelling" at me, yet again. I never said that I was the only one cleaning up, just that I felt like I was the only one. I am not trying to make anyone feel bad. All I want is for us to work together. [hun], if you sent emails telling us about your work around the building, I would thank you. I would not swear at you. I have asked, many times, for suggestions as to how we can work together. Of course, it's true that I have only done two major clean-up chores over the last few months and I did write to you about them. In all this time, it took about 3-4 hours of my time to keep things (relatively) in order. No, it was not a ton of work. Would it have been easier if we could have shared the load? YES. That is my point. We do not have to be completely independent operators in this condo. We should be able to work together. I still hope we can.Then I wrote a separate note to the two other condo owners:
I want to apologize for subjecting you the current unpleasant email exchange between hun and me. I have to admit that when I sent my first response to [clueless upstairs neighbor]'s message I was pretty sure I would get an angry reply from hun. Unfortunately, that is what happened. I would like to ask the two of you to think about how we can work together to maintain our building. If you are angry at me as well, I can accept that. However, please understand that all I have ever wanted to do is to figure out some way that we can share the responsibilities and work together.I’m afraid I've mishandled the whole thing. Have I been smug? Self-righteous? I wouldn’t mind being put in my place, a little. Why doesn't hun say, "I usually pick up the back, but I got frustrated too. Please don't take all the credit for taking care of the place." That would be better. And, then, in my fantasy she add, "Let's figure out a way to work together and stop this sniping." But instead of anything like a suggestion I get back complete silence from two neighbors and complete anger from the other. Help me, please! I have considered moving to resolve this. I may still move. But, in the meantime, what should I do? Ignore it all and let the place go? Keep doing my share (whatever that is) and never, ever talk to the other neighbors again? (This last would be very hard because it would make me feel very angry.) I just find it so unbelievable that with such a tiny amount of work to do we can’t find some way to work together. I’ve probably screwed everything up by how I’ve handled it. But I just don’t know what else to do. It’s a day like today that it would really help to find something to be grateful for. Of course, that means it’s particularly hard. Sigh. I'm definitely going to yoga.