Today, I almost turned my Jdate profile back on. The only thing that stopped me was that the site is down for maintenance. That's ok. I do have a little dilemma I should deal with before going live again. The question: those two cancelled coffee dates back in the good old days of Jake, should I renew them? Still thinking on that one.
I have activated my profile on another online site (which will remain nameless). I have written to a couple of people and received one response. The guy was funny, and I gave him my number in the second message I sent. His response? I quote:
Of course I wanna hear more! I suck at calling people on the phone, though (ask my Mom). To me the phone is a wondrous and mysterious instrument that I try not to use. But I do pick it up when it vibrates. If you like, give me a call XXX-XXX-XXXX. Or email me at email@example.comI think we understand that he sucks at making calls. I want to ask him, does that mean you will never, ever call me? Will you answer messages if I leave one or would I just have to keep calling until you manage to pick up the phone? Are all transactions email only? Are you just as bad at sending email? In other words, what the fuck?
ps - I'm not joking about phones. I suck. SUCK!
And I want to ask myself, do you really think you want to be friends with this person, let alone date him and set up any kind of expectations at all? I think a friends only approach would be the only way to go in this case. Or, I could just ignore him and not answer his message. My minimum requirement these days is that the guy call me first. I hate making that first call and I’ve done it many times. I’m done. I’ll return a call, but he needs to be willing to take that much initiative. Hmm, maybe I’m not crazy, I’m just a demanding, uh, person. Heh heh.